Tuesday, 11 October 2016

Male escorts

        A male escort otherwise called a gigolo or a social companion who is supported by a woman in a continuing relationship, often living in her residence or having to be present at her beck and call. The gigolo is expected to provide companionship, to serve as a consistent escort with good manners and social skills, and often, to serve as a dancing partner as required by the woman in exchange for the support. Many gifts such as expensive clothing and an automobile to drive may be lavished upon him. The relationship may include sexual services as well, when he also would be referred to as "a kept man".
The term gigolo usually implies a man who adopts a lifestyle consisting of a number of such relationships serially, rather than having other means of support. 
The word gigolo may be traced to a first use as a neologism during the 1920s as a back-formation from a French word, gigolette, a woman hired as a dancing partner.
Many male escorts, including myself, will use the term "gigolo" in reference to our profession. More often than not, such use is the easiest way to clarify that our clients are women -- that we are heterosexual. Technically my profession is "escort," although I think the term "companion" is much classier and also more accurate.
Before the TV show "Gigolos" -- the reality series in which I star - began airing on Showtime in 2010, the world I inhabit in my professional life was completely unknown. Three years (and 5 seasons) later, my world has been glimpsed by millions and the term "gigolo" has found its way into the common lexicon. The question I field from people who first encounter me, however, has not changed.
It's almost impossible for me to know what someone means when they ask me, "How did you get into this?"
Are they asking how I wound up on a TV show? Do they want the story of how I met my agent? Could they be interested in how I acquired the skills to even be qualified to work for my agent in the first place? Then there is the possibility that they are wanting to know how I acquired the mind-set to pursue the path that brought me to this point in my life.
I have often compared the life trajectory of a high-end straight male escort to that of an athlete. You might expect a Major League Baseball player to be confused if asked, "How did you get into this?"
I expect his basic answer to be not so far from my own: I fell in love with the game, became really good at it, people noticed, now I get paid to play.
The world shown in "Gigolos" the reality show is a glamorized and stylised version of my actual world.
The portrayal is not inaccurate, but it is, by default, an edited version of events highlighting the most exciting, humorous and sexy parts of my profession and lifestyle. I am glad that the viewing audience has had such a positive reaction to the show and, by extension, to my comrades and me. However, even the most dedicated viewers tend to come away with some misconceptions about the life of a gigolo.
The most common misconception about my profession is that it is "all about sex."

When our show premiered four years ago - and even now, years later -- many people were incredulous. Why would any woman pay for sex when she could just show up at any bar and get it for free?

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